Hey, Jude: I tend to be really hard on myself, especially when I cry.

You’re lucky that you can cry easily because tears are a great purifier that wash you clean. Keep them coming. But be sure you keep your attention on naming what you’re experiencing in your body, a specific hurt or loss, or loving yourself by repeating something along the lines of, It’s okay. I just feel sad. I did the best I could. I’m doing well. I did well. I am a good person. Your crying might intensify at first, but sooner or later you’ll get that you did the best you could at the time and that you are okay no matter what.