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Confronting Fear

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Attitude Reconstruction is based on the fact that all of our problems, our bad habits and attitudes, stem back to unexpressed emotions – that is sadness, anger, and fear. To feel more of our other three emotions – joy, love, and peace — we need to acknowledge and express our sadness, anger, and fear naturally, physically, and constructively.

It’s important to realize that our emotions are just pure energy. Look at the word “emotion.” It’s made up of E + motion. Energy in motion. If we move the energy out of our bodies, it passes and calmness and clarity is restored.

Are you afraid of speaking in public, not having enough money to pay the rent, or seemingly almost everything? Do you often feel anxious, worried, or overwhelmed? Does your mind catapult backwards, forward, or out into the wild blue yonder, but never resides in the present? These are symptoms of living with unexpressed fear, and fear severely diminishes your ability to feel peace and enjoy the present moment.

Fear is the natural reaction to threats to our survival, such as natural disasters, accidents, and things we haven’t done before. However, when we don’t handle fear physically, our minds become the enemy, jumping into the future, losing perspective and leaving us confused and scattered.

Conquer Fear by Shivering

Shaking and shivering is the most effective and natural method because fear is just physical energy in the body. Act like a scared dog at the veterinarian when you feel the bodily sensations of fear – heart racing, hands freezing, solar-plexus tightening. It can feel silly at first, but if you allow your body to shiver, quiver, shudder, tremble, or quake – what it wants to naturally do – you’ll restore calm and your attention will come back to the present moment. Ham it up. Persist until you feel tension drain out of your body. It just takes a minute or two.

Don’t give in to agitated thoughts of “always,” “never,” overgeneralizations, and doom and gloom about the future. Use your mind to keep peace nearby and fear at bay and continually repeat:

  • It’s okay. I am just feeling fear. I just need to shiver.
  • This feeling is temporary. This will pass.
  • Everything is all right.
  • I’ll handle the future in the future.
  • I will deal with one thing at a time. 

 

If you express the fear energy and replace your old thoughts with what is true, you’ll feel calmer and be able to determine what’s best to say or do to handle what beforehand seemed scary. Then you can break that goal into little, doable steps, and just do it, one step at a time.

When facing fear head on, you’ll be entertained and inspired by the moment. Paralysis will be replaced with forward movement; confusion with confidence. You’ll live in each moment and stay specific, hold on to what you know is true for you, surrender to what is, enjoy it, and participate in life more fully. You’ll feel more peace.

 

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